Duly Noted: "a person or thing that closes."

As this year has come closer and closer to its completion I’ve taken a few personal steps to close some doors that had never seemed to be actually closed before. It was sort of like the door would be almost closed, then it a gust of wind would push it, crack it slightly, and before I knew it the whole thing had flung back open - am I on my own in this one? Eh, I guess that’s cool. lol

In my recent love of wanting to look up every word there is, I was curious to find out what the dictionary said about “closure.” The dictionary on my computer gave rather uninspiring answers, but Dictionary.com had many... many definitions. One of them stood out:

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Clo-sure [kloh-zher] noun

10. Psychology
the tendency to see an entire figure even though the picture of it is incomplete, based primarily on the viewer's past experience.
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I was fascinated by the choice of words used here, “even though the picture of it is incomplete...” Wow.

How often do we wait to hear from someone, hold off to return to a place, or simply just couldn’t move on until something happened to give us “closure”? Well closure, at least by this very definition, doesn’t seem to require anything but the decision to see the picture as done, not for it to actually be a completed puzzle.

I’ve ended some relationships this week, because I recognized they were unhealthy for who I see myself becoming in the future. The Jarrett of tomorrow, won’t be the same Jarrett of yesterday. The making of that decision, the moving to that place, and the growth of this person couldn’t possibly be contingent upon anything outside of me. No returned phone call, no awkward conversation, no hearing what someone else’s intentions actually were can have more impact on my life than the resolve of my own decision.

It wasn’t easy, but each day it’s easi-er. It’s now a process every day.

Finally, when researching closure, I almost accidentally moved down the page and found that the next word, after “closure,” was “closer.”

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Clo-ser [kloh-zher] noun

a person or thing that closes.
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Maybe today we can choose to intentionally move beyond the “closure” we’ve been looking for, to find the “closer” that we’ve needed all along, in ourselves. With a period on the end.

“Even the smallest journey begins with a single step.” -unknown

Kyra Sedgwick is: The Closer.

Get it? She's on a show called... "The Closer." Eh, it as funny to me.